Here are some steps to help encourage a happy day.
1) Look for happiness and you will see happiness.
“Unless I look upon what is not there, my present happiness is all I see” (A Course in Miracles).
As you send the energy of happiness, do not allow ‘things’ of the world to distract your vision. If someone cuts in front of you while you’re driving, refrain from road rage by counting to ten or humming a tune. Watch the situation, allow it to pass and carry on. So what if the traffic light turns red on you? It will turn green, and you will be on your way before you know it. Or what if a colleague fails to return your greetings? This is not a reason to stop you from greeting them every morning. Perhaps they're distracted by a passing thought, or didn't hear you, whatever their reason may be, don't allow this event to dampen your happy day.
2) Do you want to be happy?
Answer this question without qualifying it. For example, if someone asks if you want to be happy, answer YES only if you truly want to be happy from this point onwards, despite your current or future life situations. By this I mean, when you make a firm choice to have a happy day (everyday of your life) as you get ready to leave in the morning, who's to say your car might not breakdown on your way to work? Or that you might not get fired? Or worst that your loved one might not pass on this day?
“The purpose of your life is to enjoy and learn from your experiences,” says Michael Singer.
Yes we get sad when terrible things happen, it's the way of life - things will always happen. However you ALWAYS have a choice; you can watch and experience the situation, allow it to pass through you, learn from it and then move on. Or you can dwell in your experience but you know that won't bring you happiness. So don't allow life's situations to limit your happiness.
3) Let go of the drama.
By creating drama or reacting dramatically to every event that attempts to stand in the way of your happiness you qualify the failure to be happy. For example: if you left home feeling happy and return at the end of the day feeling unhappy, then your housemate asks if you had a happy day as you intended, you might say; I would have been happy if my car didn't break down or if I didn't get fired and so on. It's okay to acknowledge the events in your life but don't over dramatise things. Why not relay the positive side of the events instead: My car broke down this morning but I was relieved when the tow truck arrived and the driver was more than happy to drop me off at my work.
And I hear you say there's no positive side to being fired. Well if you choose to be happy, it doesn't necessarily mean you will be happy in your current job. Perhaps getting fired gives you an opportunity to land your dream job (the one that's been bubbling in your thoughts but prevented by fear) where you'll be happy.
This is a conscious choice, therefore to remain in your happiness status choose wisely.
Love and Light,
Daily Focus #2
Have a Happy Day
"You are a spiritual being, you are energy.
Let go of the difficulties from your past, cultural codes and social beliefs.
You are the only one who can create the life you deserve.
The power is in your thoughts, so stay aware."
As you gear up to enter your car, jump on your bike, walk to the bus/train station/taxi rank, or simply walk to work/school/university, make a firm choice to have a happy day. Believe in your choice and watch what happens - the law of attraction will send happiness down your path and your day will exist on the frequency of happiness.
As you bid your family, friends or housemates goodbye, wish them a happy day and you'll experience 'happy' manifold.
Creating your happiness:
Ever hear the expression, ‘Think happy thoughts’?
In ‘The Seat of Self’ Gary Zukav writes, “A thought is energy or light, that has been shaped by consciousness ... This is creation.” In this regard, it makes sense that happiness is the energy that begins within you and only you can make the decision to experience it.
Your mind is a powerful engine room and you know it. It allows you to travel through your thoughts by projecting your past experiences (good or bad) into your future. When you begin to gain awareness of what's happening in your mind, you begin to live in the present moment. Which means in that present moment, you are in control of your thoughts. This control gives you the power to shape your day and ultimately your life by simply making a conscious positive choice such as happiness.
Dorcas Maphakela is a writer, visual artist and holistic well-being advocate, using art and words to share knowledge and inspiration on living a full life. She is also a TV presenter, public speaker and founder and producer of the Antenna Award-winning OZ AFRICAN TV (OATV). Alongside her role with Multicultural Arts Victoria, Dorcas co-founded Yo CiTY, a platform that champions the culturally diverse experience through Art & music. Dorcas is an Academic Screen Lecturer at the University of Melbourne. She studied Fine Arts and Master of Arts in Writing.